In my recent podcast episode, I shared the 4 Mistakes That Are Keeping You Single. In this eye-opening episode of the Blooming Podcast, I delve into the common pitfalls that can hinder strong, successful women in their relationships. Discover how understanding and embracing natural dynamics can lead to more fulfilling and lasting connections.

One of the 4 misconceptions I discussed was this desire that you as a successful woman can feel to lead with your accomplishments, current successes like your income and career title or your education and material things you’ve acquired like a home and car.

You think that if you talk about how much you love your high-paying career, share how much money you make, talk about the house you’re planning to buy or the MBA you earned last year that got you a promotion…he’s going to be attracted to you and choose you out of all the women in the world to be his girlfriend. 

Unfortunately, men don’t operate like that. Well, at least not healthy masculine men. 

When you try to impress him with what you have and what you’ve done in an attempt to make him see you as having higher value against other women, it actually has the opposite effect. 

I know. I was surprised too. 

HE WANTS TO GIVE

You see, confident men that protect and provide for a woman WANT to be the one that earns, pays and gives you many of the things you’ve had to work so hard for. 

Yes. He prides himself in working hard everyday and finds purpose and value in providing for himself, making a difference in this world and serving others. 

Your intentions are so good. I get it. 

You want to share what you’ve done and what you have in hopes that this will make him see you as wife material and a good potential long term partner. 

But this actually has the opposite effect. He instead views you as what I call a “competitor” versus a companion. 

Don’t get me wrong, he loves that you love your life, are educated, make a good income and have nice things. 

But when you try to get him to choose you by putting your accomplishments or material things on display, he sees you more as someone who is getting in the way of his purpose (to provide for you) and he doesn’t feel needed. 

Yes. Masculine men thrive in being needed to give and share their resources with others, especially a woman he loves. 

You don’t have to do that here with him. 

He feels like you’re robbing him of the pleasure he has to serve you. 

If you already have everything, what can he give you?

Oh, his love and his companionship?

NOPE. 

That’s not enough for him.  

He is built differently than you. 

He needs to work and provide and wants a woman that will receive and encourage his hard earned efforts. 

When YOU give, you take away his purpose. 

His purpose is to protect and provide for others and he will see you as a threat to his life’s purpose. 

He’ll have fun with you. Heck he might even let you pay for dinner. But he’ll never claim you or commit to you if you lead with your successes. 

He needs to be the successful hard working one in the relationship. 

The woman that gets the man is the woman that encourages him to work hard, provide for her, and receive his provision. 

Want to get his love, devotion AND all his hard earned efforts?

Stop talking about your work, your goals and your money. 

Instead, ask him what HIS goals are. Ask him what he loves about his work. Ask him what kind of work he would do if he could choose any career in the world. 

You simply have to sit back, watch, listen and receive what he so desperately wants to give you. 

YOU’LL ATTRACT LOSERS

The worse part about leading with masculine energy of providing?

You’ll attract the men with low effort attitude that take, take and take some more.

Yes, he will make you do ALL THE WORK in the relationship.

From approaching him, texting and calling him, to planning most your dates.

You’ll be left paying, planning and providing.

Sound familiar?

Yup. Now you’re the masculine provider and he’s receiving all your goodness.

This is NOT how God intended things between men and women.

These takers will leave you feeling unloved, overworked and resentful. You have enough on your plate. You don’t need a boy that think you’re his mommy and sugar momma.

Attract the masculine man that is loving, loyal and protects and provides for YOU.

STOP leading with your “stuff” and ask him what he’s got going on.

You’re the prize and he wants to win you over!

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STOP dating like the world & date according to The Word. There isn’t a shortage of Godly men out there. You’ve just been attracting and picking the wrong ones because you’ve been using a worldly strategy. It’s time you experienced the love God wants for you. Segura is the program where I share how I believe you can  date, connect with and choose to the right man for you.  Click here to download the program now. 

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