You Don’t Need a Relationship.
You Need to Be Single.
That sentence can sound offensive at first. Especially if you’re someone who wants love, values marriage, and isn’t interested in casual dating or emotional limbo.
But stay with me.
When Dr. Myles Munroe said that a person must be single before they can create a great marriage, he wasn’t talking about your relationship status. He was talking about your internal state.
Because there are many women who are unmarried but not single at all.
And there are women in relationships who are deeply fragmented inside.
Singleness, in the way Munroe meant it, has nothing to do with being alone.
It has everything to do with being whole.
Singleness Is Not the Absence of a Partner
It’s the Presence of Self
Munroe defined singleness as being separate, unique, and whole.
That means you are no longer looking to a partner to:
- regulate your emotions,
- confirm your worth,
- rescue you from loneliness,
- or complete a story you feel unfinished inside.
This doesn’t mean you don’t want love.
It means love isn’t carrying a job it was never meant to do.
A relationship can’t stabilize a nervous system.
It can’t heal a fractured self-image.
It can’t replace internal safety.
And when we ask it to, we unknowingly push away the very intimacy we crave.
Separate Doesn’t Mean Guarded
It means independently powerful.
To be separate is not to be closed off. It’s to be self-contained.
A woman who is separate:
- can enjoy connection without losing herself,
- can tolerate uncertainty without panicking,
- can be desired without over-performing,
- can be chosen without needing to control the outcome.
She isn’t fused to a man for identity or direction. She’s standing in her own center.
This is why emotionally available men feel calm around her.
There’s no pressure to save her.
No fear of disappointing her.
No sense that love is a fragile thing they must constantly manage.
Unique Means You’re No Longer Shape-Shifting
When a woman doesn’t feel secure in who she is, she unconsciously edits herself to stay loved.
She becomes more agreeable.
More impressive.
More accommodating.
Less honest.
Less relaxed.
Attraction might spark, but connection can’t stay.
Uniqueness is what creates continuity. It’s what allows a man to feel like he knows you, not just who you are when you’re trying to be chosen.
When you know who you are, you don’t audition.
You reveal.
And that changes everything.
Whole Means Love Is a Choice, Not a Cure
Wholeness doesn’t mean you’ve healed every wound or never feel lonely again.
It means your sense of worth is no longer outsourced.
You’re not dating to prove you’re lovable.
You’re not attaching to avoid pain.
You’re not clinging because something feels missing.
You want partnership because it would be meaningful, expansive, and beautiful. Not because you’re afraid of being without it.
This is the difference between longing and need.
And men feel that difference immediately.
Why This Changes the Kind of Relationship You Attract
A woman who is separate, unique, and whole doesn’t ask a man to complete her.
She invites him to build something with her.
Her presence feels:
- grounding instead of demanding,
- inspiring instead of heavy,
- warm instead of anxious,
- expansive instead of restrictive.
This is the kind of woman men don’t feel trapped by.
It’s the kind of woman they grow for.
Work for.
Commit to.
Not because she asked them to.
Because being with her makes them better.
Becoming Single Is the Work
If you’ve ever wondered why love feels harder than it should,
why you’re confident in life but unsure in dating,
why connection starts strong but doesn’t stay safe,
It’s not because you’re broken.
And it’s not because you need better tactics.
It’s because singleness is an identity, not a status.
And once that identity is installed, love stops feeling like something you have to chase.
It starts meeting you where you are.
Singleness is the key.
The Love Identity Assessment is where we look beneath your behaviors and map the identity that’s been running your results in love.
You’ll walk away with clarity, a diagnosis of the exact internal conflicts holding you back, and a roadmap for becoming the woman your future relationship already requires.
If you’re ready for breakthrough instead of repetition, click here to book your Love Identity Assessment now.
