You can’t attract from a dysregulated nervous system because the energy you’re creating from is based in survival, not safety—and the subconscious always prioritizes survival over expansion.
Let’s break this down neurologically, emotionally, and energetically:
1. The Brain in Survival Mode Doesn’t Care About Your Vision
When your nervous system is dysregulated (i.e., stuck in fight, flight, freeze, or fawn), your brain is flooded with stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline. These chemicals:
- Narrow your focus to short-term safety, not long-term goals
- Shut down your prefrontal cortex (the part of your brain responsible for vision, planning, creativity, and possibility)
- Signal to the subconscious: “It’s not safe to change. Stay exactly where we are.”
So even if your conscious mind says “I want love, success, peace,” your subconscious won’t let you move forward if it thinks it’s unsafe.
2. You Attract What You Feel Safe Having
The law of attraction works through the subconscious mind and mirror neurons—not just your thoughts, but your felt sense of self.
If your nervous system is dysregulated, you don’t feel safe receiving more. You’re unconsciously bracing for disappointment, danger, or rejection. This communicates to your subconscious:
“I’m not safe with that thing I desire. Don’t let it in.”
This is why:
- You might manifest almost relationships, but sabotage love when it gets close
- You might manifest a new opportunity but freeze or procrastinate instead of showing up
- You say you want abundance, but panic every time money comes in or goes out
The body always wins.
3. You’ll Attract From the Frequency of Fear, Not Fulfillment
Manifestation isn’t just about visualization—it’s about vibration.
A dysregulated nervous system emits a chronic signal of:
- urgency
- lack
- control
- hypervigilance
- chaos
This becomes your “emotional home,” and you unconsciously attract, interpret, or co-create situations that match that frequency—because it’s familiar.
Your reality begins to reflect your unhealed nervous system, not your conscious affirmations.
🧘♀️ So What Do You Do Instead?
You don’t call him in by doing more. You manifest more by:
- Regulating your nervous system – through breath, movement, nervous system work, or subconscious reprogramming
- Creating internal safety – so your body stops interpreting success, love, or visibility as a threat
- Embodying the feeling of having what you want – not to fake it, but to show your nervous system “we can handle this”
When your system feels safe, open, and grounded, the ideal man feels like a match—not a threat.
Final Thought:
You don’t attract him from the mind. You attract from the body.
And the body won’t let you receive what it’s not safe to hold.
If your body doesn’t feel safe with love, it will reject it—no matter how badly you want it.
The Open Heart Blueprint is not just about understanding men or saying the right things. (although I do teach you exactly that)
It’s about finally feeling safe to receive the love, devotion, and emotional availability you’ve always craved.
When you remove subconscious fears/blocks about men, yourself and relationships, you feel calm, at peace, and worthy. This program helps you:
💗 Calm the anxious patterns that push love away
💗 Rewire the belief that you have to perform or control to be chosen
💗 Open your heart so your energy calls him in—without chasing
If your nervous system is the gatekeeper of your love life,
this is your key.
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