First, let’s define what communication is.

Webster’s dictionary defines communication as: the act, process or transfer of information, the imparting or interchange of thoughts, opinions, or information by speech, writing or to share knowledge. To make something known to another.

You as a woman communicate verbally with words and nonverbally with your actions.

What is masculine communication

As always, I would like for you to clearly know the difference between the masculine and feminine interpretation of an experience so let’s first look at masculine communication.

Communication in your masculine energy focuses on sharing what you think, what someone or something should do, and how they should do it in order to get a result accomplished.

It gives direction and it’s expressed by sharing information about what’s pertinent to get the goal completed.

What is feminine communication

When you’re communicating from your feminine energy, you’re sharing what you feel, what you want, in order to allow someone the opportunity to provide it for you.

It strives to connect to others or your environment by expressing how you’re personally feeling in the moment.  It’s honest and shares information in a way that inspires others to feel open, safe and supports the goal of the relationship.

Example of masculine verbal communication

Imagine being at your favorite restaurant with your best girlfriend and the waiter asks if you’re ready to order.

Masculine energy order: 

(You go first. In a loud and stern tone, speaking quickly) I think I want the New York steak, the 12 oz. cut. The brussel sprouts. The garlic mashed potatoes. Make sure to tell the chef I want the steak bloody. The steak should be red inside. Tell him not to use butter when he cooks my steak. Use something else, just not butter. Maybe olive oil. And bring it to me piping hot as soon as it’s off the grill. Don’t let it sit under the heating lamp. Oh and bring me another dirty martini. This glass is empty. 

Feminine energy order:

(Now your friend. In a soft and joyful tone.) “Yes, thank you, I’m ready to order. I’ve been excited about this meal all day! I’m so hungry so I want to start with a caesar salad. Dressing on the side please. I want the filet mignon, 10 ounce cut please, prepared medium rare. I like asparagus and macaroni and cheese. Also, I would love to drink a 9 oz glass of the Opus One Cabernet Sauvignon with my dinner. Thank you so much!”

Do you notice the difference between the two ways of speaking and communicating? The difference is in the information they share and how they share it.

Masculine communication explained

The masculine gives thoughts and directions. You use words like “I think” and don’t share how you’re feeling. You’re focused on accomplishing the goal of eating a meal you want.

Your tone is curt and specific. You told the waiter what to do, didn’t use words like please or thank you either. It can influence another to feel stressed and hurried which can ironically, cause him to make mistakes. This happens when a person is in a stress response, their thinking faculties can get kicked offline and it can make it difficult for a person to focus and organize their thoughts. This form of communicating is results-focused, not connection-focused.

Feminine communication explained

The feminine shares exactly what she wants as well, however, she’s expressive in the words she uses to share how she’s feeling about the experience. “I’ve been excited about this meal all day!” She also uses feelings to explicitly describe what emotion she’s having about the meal. She uses words like “please” and “thank you” and in a soft and joyful tone. Please and thank you express gratitude. A soft and joyful tone in your voice can influence others to feel calm and open towards you. This creates the desire in someone to listen and they are inspired to serve you.

This form of communication is connection-focused.

NOTICE THE DIFFERENCE?

Neither form of communication is wrong or right. Both get the result accomplished.

Notice how the waiter can feel from the masculine communication versus the feminine. The difference is in the information that was shared and how they share it, verbally and nonverbally. 

Each energy is focused on different things: results or connection.

Feminine communication uses both your right and left brain to offer your desires and emotions, to share information in a way that inspires others to feel open, safe and supports the goal of the relationship.

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