The Question I Asked Myself That 5 x My Income In One Year

Hi, I’m Anabell, and I’m obsessed with all things woman and femininity.

I help women master their God-given feminine design so they can attract a loving and loyal masculine man that protects and provides. 

the newsletter


This form will subscribe you to our email list, You may unsubscribe at any time, though doing so means we cannot contact you about any future events, programs or sales. 

Tune in ⟶

The go-to podcast for people looking to level Up their emotional and mental health game (and have a great time doing it!)



It was my second full year in business as a coach and I was broke.

I was living with my sister in her condo.

Me, my three daughters, in one room and on one bed.

I had no other income.

I wanted to coach full time and it was feeling tough.

No one could afford it.

The pandemic hit people hard. And here I was trying to launch a coaching business.

But I knew I had to start a new chapter in my life.

I was divorcing my husband and had to get out of real estate industry.

I had done it for 12 years and I was done.

I didn’t have my own home. I was living with my twin sister giving her whatever money I could afford each month.

I was so tired of worrying and stressing about money and what my life was gonna look like post divorce.

I got whatever money I had and bought a $2k business coaching program.

It felt like I spent a million dollars. It seemed crazy at the time but I had a deep feeling that it was gonna help me.

My coach started the program by having me get clear on my ideal client.

It made no sense why she as having me talk about my client when it was me she should be helping.

After I got clear on who I was helping (back then I worked with men and women that wanted to heal their trauma), I began asking myself this question over and over.

“How can I get my clients bigger results faster?”

This caused me to focus on my current client to the point of obsession.

I focused on my clients results. Period.

I thought about them day and night.

I studied what they all had in common.

I learned their fears, needs, pain points and deep desires.

I added tools and resources that helped them when they weren’t in session with me.

I studied what modalities would create the biggest transformation.

I learned what they had done before, hadn’t worked and why.

What happened?

It was almost as if God would constantly download ideas and resources on how to help them and how to make more money.

I would read exactly the right book with the perfect solution to one of my client’s issues.

This happened over and over.

It made me feel more confident as a coach.  

Helped me sell better.

I attracted more clients because I was in so much certainty about my ability to get them results.

Clients felt that and they hired me. Over and over again.

I got referrals.

And I made 5 times as much money that year.

All because I focused on who I served.

I didn’t think about me or my bank account.

I asked what they needed. Not me.

The old Anabell would only worry about bills, rent, money, fear.

Only think about herself and her needs.

My focus used to be only on my survival.

It was only when I got my mind focused on my clients solution….that it became my solution.

Their success became mine.

Their healing became mine.

If you’re a coach, entrepreneur, employee, manager, stay at home mom, teacher….whatever you do..

Whoever you serve….ask yourself….

How can I get my _________ bigger results? Faster results?

Ask yourself this everyday.

And notice what you start having ideas about. Notice what books you desire reading.

Notice how you show up differently.

When you focus on a solution instead of the problem….life changes.

Want to learn more about him and what he needs from you? Join me at my new LIVE workshop, The Mind & Heart Of A Man: Cracking The Formula to What He Actually Wants And Needs In Order to Fall In Love & Happily Commit To You on March 27th, 2024 at 12:00 pm PST where you’ll learn exactly how the male mind and heart work compared to yours and what feelings, thoughts and actions he must experience in order to make him feel like you’re the one for him. 

Click here to get all the details & secure your spot!

Let’s Connect

If this journal entry strikes a chord with you, share your thoughts with us! Join the conversation on social media, share your experiences, and let’s build a community of women empowering women. Your journey to love starts with a single step. Let this post be the catalyst for change and growth in your personal love story. Subscribe, listen, and let the transformation begin!

Want to know the 10 Hidden Masculine Traits That Keep You Overworked & Underloved? … here to download my free ebook to learn if you have them plus the 20 common masculine patterns that women struggle with.

Learn How To  Master Your God-Given Feminine Energy and Undo Unhealthy Masculine Patterns here  and Join my mini course here.

Join me and other women in my private community Feminine Freedom. If you love & respect men and marriage, focus on family, value self development and want to show up everywhere as a confident Godly feminine woman, this community is for you. Click here to join!

Listen to the Blooming Podcast where I share about all things feminine energy, faith, undoing unhealthy masculine patterns, behavior change and creating a feminine mindset.  Click here to subscribe. 

Follow me on instagram by clicking here

Follow me on Tik Tok by clicking here

Hi, I’m Anabell, and I’m obsessed with all things feminine attraction.

I help women remove mental blocks and limiting beliefs so you can stop procrastinating and finally be the confident feminine woman you truly desire to be.

If men and relationships feel confusing or frustrating, you want my weekly email newsletter in your inbox. I share the deep neuroscience research about men, love creation and what works in lasting relationships. 

This form will subscribe you to our email list, You may unsubscribe at any time, though doing so means we cannot contact you about any future events, programs or sales. 

Tune in ⟶

The go-to podcast for women looking to level up their feminine energy game (and have a great time doing it!)

Featured read

You wanting a relationship is the reason he’s not pursuing you

I’ve coached hundreds of women and everyday I hear you say how much you “just want a good relationship with a good man.”  You worked hard to have a great career, a home you’re proud of and you got it all based on your ability to overcome a tough past and be a go-getter. A good […]

Keep reading ⟶