If a man is being kind, consistent, present, and intentional with you…
He’s not showing up for you because you “won him over.”
He’s showing up for you because he chose himself first.
And you’re experiencing the overflow of that decision.
Allow me to explain.
Emotionally available men and women understand their value.
They know that they are great human beings and have a lot to offer.
They’ve invested in themselves, done the therapy and are self-aware.
They know how to love well, are consistent and communicate with compassion, empathy and confidence.
They KNOW they make a great partner and that anyone they choose to be with is going to get a total upgrade to their life. Anyone they come in contact with leaves better.
So they don’t give discounts.
They don’t give samples and let others consume them.
They don’t settle.
They only choose the best partner for them that matches what they offer too.
And they move FAST. Not out of FOMO, but because they go after what they want and they respect the other person’s time.
So when a man is interested in you because he sees and knows your value, he will show interest, be very intentional, and make it abundantly clear that he has a romantic interest.
None of this, “let’s just get to know each other as friends first.”
Nope, that’s fear talking. He’s scared. Walk away from that guy.
Actually, run away.
An emotionally available man asks you on a date and makes his romantic intentions clear.
He does NOT want to get friend-zoned or just talk about work.
He wants to know more about you and wants you to see what he has to offer you.
So when an EA man sees and feels that you’re exactly what he needs in his life, and he begins courting you, treating you with care and committing to you, this is as much about your value AND the way he sees and feels about HIMSELF.
He won’t entertain flaky women that play games, hard-to-get, or black cat tactics.
He won’t approach a woman that is clearly guarded and insecure.
He won’t commit to a woman that’s inconsistent, can’t manage her emotions and breaks up with him every other week.
He won’t consider a woman who pursues him because he knows that’s HIS role.
Nope. He wants a partner as available, aware and healthy as himself.
He wants a woman that can give and receive love.
Because his partner choice is as much about how much he loves, trusts and respects HIMSELF too.
Men don’t commit because you’re perfect.
They don’t fall in love because you cooked, called, cared, or convinced.
They choose a woman after they’ve decided what kind of man they want to be, what kind of life they want to live, and how they want to show up in a relationship.
They choose a woman after he knows his value and what he deserves.
You are simply a live confirmation and reflection of his personal self worth.
You’re not the reason he’s finally stepping up.
He already made that decision before you.
He treats you well and respects you because he takes care of investments.
He treats you well because he knows your value and wants to keep you soft and happy.
That’s why trying to “make” a man be ready never works.
Because if he hasn’t chosen to grow into his own emotional availability, masculinity, leadership, or consistency…
He’ll only resent you for trying to pull it out of him.
And you’ll burn yourself out trying to fix what isn’t your responsibility.
So if a man is being good to you…
Receive it.
Enjoy it.
But know this:
You’re just witnessing the results of him choosing to be good to HIMSELF first.
And THIS is the only kind of man who can truly love you well.
Are you choosing YOURSELF first?
Maybe it’s time you started showing up like this too.
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