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Fear of Rejection = Need for Approval

Hi, I’m Anabell, and I’m obsessed with all things subconscious mind, love, connection & behavior change.

I help women break free from subconscious patterns that hold you back in every area of your life and unlock your true potential.

How Your Inner World Shapes Your Outer Results — and How to Reprogram It for Love, Confidence, and Peace

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The Mirror Effect

From the moment we enter the world, our nervous system is wired to seek connection. As infants and children, we learn who we are and how relationships “work” by watching and feeling our caregivers. When they are warm, responsive, and emotionally available, we internalize a sense of safety: I matter, I am lovable, I belong.

But if our caregivers were unpredictable, distracted, or emotionally unavailable, those early years may have left us with the imprint of rejection. Not because we were unworthy, but because the people responsible for teaching us love were unable to consistently give it.

Psychologists note that rejection sensitivity in childhood can pose developmental risks over time. We learn to become hyper-vigilant—trying harder to win affection, or bottling up our needs so we won’t risk being hurt again. As Sturmer put it:

“If we are frightened of rejection, it might make us feel as if there is something about us that is unacceptable or unworthy. This can leave us lacking in confidence. It might make us worry about showing our vulnerability in case this triggers rejection.”

No wonder so many of us grow into adults who secretly fear rejection in dating, careers, or friendships.

Reframing the “Fear”

Here’s the truth: fear of rejection is not really about rejection.
It’s about the need for approval.

At its core, rejection only stings when we’ve unconsciously handed someone else the authority to decide our worth. If they approve of us, we feel safe. If they don’t, our whole sense of self can wobble.

But think about that for a moment—why should another person’s perception or decision have the power to throw your life, your goals, or your sense of self off track?

The Power of Self-Approval

Step one in overcoming the fear of rejection is understanding this: you don’t actually need anyone else’s approval.

Step two: you must begin giving that approval to yourself.

When you truly accept, approve of, and validate yourself, something radical shifts. You stop chasing external approval like oxygen. You stop contorting yourself to be chosen. You stop shrinking at the thought of being “too much” or “not enough.”

And here’s the paradox: the more you approve of yourself, the more the world reflects that approval back to you. The world, after all, is a mirror.

From Fear to Freedom

I help my clients rewire this pattern at the identity level. We increase their self-approval and anchor in the qualities that make them feel unshakably confident. As a result, rejection no longer feels like annihilation—it becomes irrelevant. They stop fearing it because their worth isn’t on trial anymore.

When you approve of yourself first, you stand in your power. You feel free. Detached. And magnetic.

Because the truth is: you must become what you want to receive.


“It’s not your partner’s job to make you feel safe.
It’s your subconscious’s job to believe that you already are.” — Anabell Ingleton


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Hi, I’m Anabell, and I’m obsessed with all things love, connection, Jesus and behavior change.

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