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Your Self-Concept Shapes Your Success (In Relationships and At Work)

Hi, I’m Anabell, and I’m obsessed with all things love, connection, Jesus & behavior change.

I help women break free from subconscious patterns that hold you back in every area of your life and unlock your true potential.

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Have you ever wondered why you can achieve something amazing — a promotion, a compliment, a great date — and still not feel good enough? Or why, no matter how much you accomplish, self-doubt seems to creep back in? Or why after finally getting into a relationship, it falls through your fingers and it’s another self sabotage moment?

The answer lies in a powerful but often hidden process: the relationship between your experiences, qualities, self-concept, and self-esteem.

How It Works

Every experience you’ve ever had creates a quality within you. For example, maybe you had experiences of being kind, successful, or creative. Those qualities then form your self-concept (or self identity) — which is essentially the story you carry about who you are.

And here’s the key:

  • If you like who you believe you are, you’ll experience high self-esteem.
  • If you don’t like who you believe you are, or if your qualities don’t align with your deepest values, you’ll experience low self-esteem.

That’s where the inner conflict begins.

What Is Self-Esteem and Why Does It Matter?

Self-esteem is simply the way you feel about yourself at the deepest level. It’s your internal measurement of your own worth and capability. When you have high self-esteem, you trust yourself, respect yourself, and feel worthy of love, success, and happiness. This confidence shapes every part of your life — from how you show up in relationships, to the risks you take in your career, to the way you care for your health. Low self-esteem, on the other hand, keeps you in constant self-doubt, afraid of rejection, and often settling for less than you truly desire.

What Are Values?

value is simply a generalization about what matters most to you, shaped by your past experiences.

  • If you value kindness, it’s because you’ve experienced kindness and know its power. When you act with kindness, you feel proud of who you are.
  • If you value success, and you take steps that align with your vision of success, you feel confident and strong.

But here’s the catch: for many people, self-esteem becomes dependent on constant external proof. The moment you stop acting kindly, stop achieving, or stop getting attention, your self-worth drops.

That’s why you’ll often see people who look confident on the outside — successful, attractive, accomplished — but internally feel like imposters. They don’t truly believe they are the thing they’re showing the world.

The Problem of Misalignment

This gap between who you want to be and who you believe you are creates suffering.

If your subconscious doesn’t believe you’re kind, worthy, successful, or lovable — it won’t let you sustain experiences that contradict that. You’ll sabotage relationships, reject opportunities, or find ways to shrink your success.

Why? Because the subconscious will never let you live out a reality that doesn’t align with your self-concept.

The Path to Transformation

This is why transformational work isn’t just about changing behaviors. It’s about changing beliefs at the identity level.

When you identify your values and start shifting your qualities to align with them, everything changes:

  • Your self-esteem rises.
  • Confidence becomes natural.
  • Your behaviors begin to flow from who you believe you are — not from effort or performance.

Every time you shift from believing something about yourself that you don’t value (“I’m not enough, I’m unlovable, I’m a failure”) to believing something you do value (“I’m kind, I’m worthy, I’m capable”), you feel the difference instantly.

It’s not just a mental shift — it’s an emotional one. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. You show up differently, act differently, and others respond differently.

Because when you believe it, you live it. And when you don’t, you sabotage it.


💡 This is the essence of self-concept work: transforming the qualities you believe about yourself so your subconscious no longer holds you back. When your self-concept aligns with your values, self-esteem becomes natural, sustainable, and deeply freeing.


Ready to Experience This Shift for Yourself?

If you’ve noticed that no matter what you achieve or how hard you try, you still struggle with doubt, sabotage, or feeling unworthy in love, it’s not because something is “wrong” with you. It’s because your self-concept hasn’t caught up with your true values.

That’s exactly why I created The Love Mirror Reset — a 12-session identity upgrad experience designed to help you align who you believe you are with who you truly want to be.

Inside, we’ll uncover the hidden beliefs shaping your self-concept, release the ones that keep you stuck, and install the qualities that naturally raise your self-esteem and transform how you show up in love and in life.

Because when you change the way you see yourself, you change the way love — and the world — reflects back to you.

👉 Learn more and apply for The Love Mirror Reset here.

Hi, I’m Anabell, and I’m obsessed with all things love, connection, Jesus and behavior change.

I help women remove mental blocks and limiting beliefs so you can stop procrastinating and finally be the confident feminine woman you truly desire to be.

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