You don’t need to change yourself. You need to change your type.
Read that again.
The issue isn’t that you’re not enough, too much, or need to “fix” something about yourself to be loved. The issue is who you’re choosing — and more importantly, *who you’re allowing to stay.*
You keep trying to be the female version of him, contort, be “cool with it,” wait it out, or make it work with men who were never built to hold the kind of love you desire.
You’re exhausted not because love is hard — but because you’ve been choosing wrong.
Here’s the truth: simply changing the kind of man you allow into your life can *radically* shift your entire experience of men, love and relationships. Not to mention yourself.
✨ No more “I feel bad cuz he’s really nice.”
✨ No more “Well at least he’s hot.”
✨ No more second-guessing yourself, your worth, or your standards.
The real transformation starts when you stop settling and start upgrading.
That means no longer lowering your standards just because you’re lonely.
That means no longer justifying red flags because “he has potential.”
The first step out of this cycle is by raising your standards, getting crazy clear on your non-negotiables and 10x-ing your relationship goals.
Not the Pinterest-perfect version — but the soul-aligned vision of partnership you *actually* crave deep down and would be crazy excited to have.
Here’s why it’s so important.
Most dating coaches won’t teach you this, because most of them don’t even understand what real standards are. They’ll hand you a checklist or tell you to be more feminine, but they won’t help you anchor into the kind of clarity that makes choosing easy — and settling impossible.
And because my coaching methods are ALWAYS backed by neuroscience and behavior change psychology, my methods work FAST.
That’s why you’re still entertaining the wrong men.
That’s why your heart keeps breaking in the same ways.
And that’s why you feel like time is slipping through your fingers.
It’s not because love isn’t meant for you —It’s because your standards haven’t caught up with the woman you’ve become. It’s because your standards haven’t been defined in a way that protects your peace and creates the future relationship you really want.
As always, I’ll back it up with some neuroscience.
When you get crystal clear on what you truly want in a relationship, you’re activating your Reticular Activating System (RAS). This brain function helps you focus on your goals and filter out distractions—like emotionally unavailable partners. This isn’t just a list of preferences; it’s a powerful shift in mindset that leads to real results.
If you’re ready to stop wasting time and start attracting the kind of love you actually deserve,
it’s time to change your type —
and that starts with upgrading it ALL.
If you’ve been looking for permission. Permission granted. Let’s get to work.
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