I used to think love was something I had to work hard for and fight for. I believed if I just tried harder, gave more, or became “perfect” enough, the right man would see my worth and choose me.
But instead, I kept attracting painful relationships. No matter how much I wanted something different, I found myself:
– Lowering my standards just to keep a man interested
– Chasing instead of being pursued
– Overgiving and over-functioning in relationships
– Loving a man the way I wanted to be loved, instead of how he needed
– Rushing into commitment, confusing intensity with connection
– Struggling with defensive or self-protective communication
– Subconsciously choosing men who mirrored my past wounds
At the time, I didn’t realize that my subconscious was running on fear and scarcity—the belief that love was limited, hard to find, and something I had to earn.
Looking back, I can now see exactly where that came from:
👉🏽 Emotional wounds of neglect, betrayal, rejection, and abandonment that shaped my beliefs about love.
👉🏽 A deep-rooted fear that if I didn’t fight for love, I would end up alone.
👉🏽 The idea that love required sacrifice and struggle instead of trust and ease.
The Breaking Point: Realizing I Was the Common Denominator
I’ll never forget the moment it finally clicked for me. After yet another disappointing relationship, I asked myself:
💭 Why do I keep attracting men who make me feel unloved or unchosen?
💭 Why does love feel like an uphill battle when it should feel secure and joyful?
💭 What if the problem isn’t them… what if it’s something I need to shift within me?
That realization was both terrifying and freeing—because if I was the common denominator, that meant I had the power to change everything.
How I Transformed Through The Open-Heart Blueprint
I knew I didn’t just need another dating tip or mindset shift. I needed to go to the root cause—the subconscious beliefs that were keeping me stuck in fear, scarcity, and unhealthy dynamics.
That’s exactly what I did through the Open-Heart Blueprint, and here’s how it changed my life:
✅ I Raised My Standards & Committed to Them
I got crystal clear on what I truly wanted in a relationship—not from fear, but from deep self-worth. I stopped accepting breadcrumbs, inconsistency, and half-hearted love.
✅ I Stopped Loving Men Like a Woman & Started Loving Them Like a Man
I learned how men actually fall in love and what creates emotional security for them. I stopped chasing and started inspiring pursuit.
✅ I Mastered the True Rhythm of a Healthy Relationship
No more rushing, forcing, or anxiously attaching. I embraced a slow and steady approach, trusting that love unfolds naturally when it’s right.
✅ I Transformed My Communication
Instead of self-protective or combative patterns, I learned secure, feminine, and authentic communication—the kind that creates connection instead of conflict.
✅ I Stopped Choosing from My Past & Started Choosing from My Future
I no longer let old wounds or subconscious patterns dictate who I was attracted to. I started choosing men based on my vision for love, not my fear-based past.
And the most powerful part?
🔹 Love stopped feeling like a struggle.
🔹 I stopped waiting for love and started attracting it.
🔹 I no longer feared losing a man—because I became the woman who knows she IS the prize.
Why This Shift is PERMANENT
Most relationship advice just tells you what to do. But if your subconscious is still wired for fear and scarcity, you’ll keep defaulting back to the same unhealthy patterns.
That’s why The Open-Heart Blueprint isn’t just about “dating strategies”—it’s about rewiring your mind, emotions, and behaviors at the root level so that healthy love becomes your new default.
If my story resonates with you—if you’ve ever felt like you’re stuck in cycles of fear, scarcity, and emotional exhaustion in love—I want you to know this:
💖 You don’t have to struggle for love.
💖 You don’t have to “earn” it, prove yourself, or overgive.
💖 You just have to rewire your mind and heart to RECEIVE the love you truly deserve.
And that’s exactly what we do inside Segura with The Open-Heart Blueprint. If you’re ready to shift your love life permanently, I’d love to help you on this journey.
Because if I could do it—so can you. 💕
NEXT STEPS & RESOURCES
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