You think that when you marry Mr. Right, then you’ll finally be happy. 

Career, check. Home, check. Money, check. Friends and family, check. 

A good man/relationship is all that’s missing and then life will feel complete.  So it makes sense that you’re always on the lookout for your missing piece because that’s all you need. 

You believe that when you meet “the one” that’s when life will be better or it can finally start. You believe something is missing in your life and have been postponing your happiness until you get a man. 

You’re by definition telling yourself and the world that you’re not happy now and can’t be happy until you meet him.  So life feels blah and you feel unfulfilled. 

And girl….trust me, whether you mean to or not, others (especially men) feel your “unhappy” vibe. 

The truth is, there is no Mr. Right, just a man that’s right for you.

And the right man is attracted to the happiest and most secure version of you. 

You see, a happy woman attracts the right man for her. 

But when you believe that you will only be happy once you have Mr. Right, you by definition, are at a deficit. You’re missing something in your life. There’s a gap. 

This is why relationships don’t work. People go into relationships looking for love. You should not go into a relationship looking for love. 

You should choose a great man because you love yourself independent of him and you want to share all that love with someone else.

“I have so much love to give!” 

But instead you have your hand open expecting him to give to you and you don’t have any love to give.

You’re like a glass, half full of love, happiness and security when you’re single.

And when you pour into him and you’re only half way full, what happens? 

You don’t have anything left. You’ll feel completely empty.

When you’re single and halfway “full”, a  relationship will actually be a source of pain and emptiness for you. Not love. Not happiness.

You’ll feel lonely, unloved and insecure in a relationship. 

Whether he’s there, and especially when he’s gone, you won’t feel good if you don’t already have a full cup independent of him. 

In fact, being with the right man at the wrong time, (when you don’t already feel complete and full independent of him) will actually bring up all your insecurities and you’ll sabotage it by feeling fearful, needy, and deeply insecure.

When you don’t love yourself and feel secure and happy when single, You’ll only push him away with your constant need for affirmation, time and attention to make you feel better. ⁣

⁣You’ll attach to him and won’t want to let go because you actually truly feel empty and lost without him. And for him, this feels like pressure. It doesn’t feel like a natural connection and a choice. You feel needy and clingy.  ⁣

⁣You see, a man doesn’t want a woman that relies on him to be happy, safe or feel loved. ⁣

⁣He wants to love you and make you happier, yes… but he wants you to be happy, loved and fully secure independent of him. ⁣

⁣This is really attractive to him. Your happiness and secure carefree nature is what actually attracts him to you. ⁣

⁣Confidence and joy is HOT to a man. ⁣

⁣So until you’re fully happy, feel complete and secure while single and feel like you’re not missing a thing, that’s when you’ll naturally attract the right man to you and you’ll actually have the traits necessary to create a thriving and lasting relationship. ⁣

⁣Deep self love and feeling secure when you’re single makes you feel great when he’s gone and you’ll feel even better when he’s there. ⁣

⁣And he’ll reap all the benefits of that extra joy you feel which only makes him want to be around you and love you even more! ⁣

⁣It’s a virtuous cycle! ⁣

⁣You have to be able to feel both, happy, loved and secure when you’re single AND when you’re with him. ⁣

⁣Are you ready to finally experience that true self love, happiness and security you know you need in order to attract a great man and have a relationship that feels good AND lasts?

⁣In my coaching program Segura (which means secure in Spanish) I help single, smart and strong women like you create the secure attachment you need to feel truly confident, comfortable in your own skin and deeply know you’re enough so you can naturally attract a secure masculine man and finally have a relationship that feels good AND lasts. 

STOP dating like the world & date according to The Word. There isn’t a shortage of Godly men out there. You’ve just been attracting and picking the wrong ones because you’ve been using a worldly strategy. It’s time you experienced the love God wants for you. Segura is the program where I share how I believe you can  date, connect with and choose to the right man for you.  Click here to download the program now. 

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