When a man pulls away in a relationship or it doesn’t seem to go past surface level attraction, it’s usually because your energy may have moved him out of his heart and into his head. 

Let’s think about it. He took the time to chat with you, ask you out a few times or maybe you’re already in a relationship with him. But he’s gone from hot to cold. At least that’s what it feels like to you. 

But how do you move a man into his heart? And more importantly, why do you even need to? 

Your heart must be open for his heart to open. His heart is where he accesses his emotions and how he connects to you on an emotional level and not just surface physical attraction. 

Most women don’t realize they’re emotionally unavailable even within relationships. Guarded. Self-protective. Strategizing every conversation, overanalyzing his behavior, trying to control the connection. These aren’t signs of strength. They’re symptoms of fear — fear of being seen, fear of rejection, fear of not being enough.

And men? They feel that fear.

Not consciously. It doesn’t register as, “I’m scared of her.” But something feels off. He can’t quite put his finger on it. The emotional connection feels flat. The attraction fades. He feels confused, restless, disconnected.

You know what’s really happening?

He feels you as a threat.

Not because you’re intimidating. But because your fear sends out an invisible signal: “It’s not safe here. Don’t open up. Stay guarded.”

And so, he does. He closes off.

But when your heart is open — when you’re emotionally available —  no longer performing, proving, or protecting yourself — something magical happens.

He feels safe. Safe to relax. Safe to be vulnerable. Safe to connect.

Because when a man is in his heart, that’s where his protector and provider live. That’s where love grows. That’s where he feels the pull to give, to claim you, to cherish you.

The real problem? You fear being fully loved. You fear being seen. And that fear closes your heart.

But here’s the key:

If your heart is closed, you will never access his heart.

Men don’t make you feel unloved. They mirror the love you withhold from yourself.

So, if your man has pulled away, it’s time to ask:

Am I emotionally unavailable?

Emotional unavailability isn’t a personality flaw. It’s a behavior pattern formed after an emotional wound—born from past neglect, abuse, rejection, or abandonment. 

But behaviors can change. Hearts can reopen. You can be available to give love and receive love again.

You have to transform the fear based beliefs that have made you guarded, doubtful, anxious or suspicious of men. You have to go from guarded to open-hearted. 

Then you don’t have to convince him to come back.

 He wants to come back to you. 

Because in your presence, he feels powerful, strong, and accepted. 

Like no other woman has made him feel before.

If you’re ready to reignite your relationship or finally feel confident and feminine when starting to date again, Segura is for you. 

This is the 16-week program that takes you from guarded to open-hearted and ready to give and receive love with excitement.  

DM me on Instagram with the word “OPEN” and I’ll send you the details to Segura, the program where you transform to finally be emotionally available, open hearted and deeply connected to your your man. 

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