Do you ever wonder why men seem hesitant to commit, even when you’re doing everything to show them how much you care? In today’s episode, we’re diving into the truth behind commitment fears and why men aren’t actually afraid of committing—they’re afraid of committing to the wrong woman.  

I’ll share a personal story (and a client’s experience) to help you understand the patterns you might be repeating in your relationships. We’ll explore how your past relationship experiences and cultural messages have shaped your beliefs about love, men and commitment, leading you to do things that actually make men NOT WANT to commit to you. 

I’ll describe the kind of woman he DOES want to commit to and why. 

The good news? There’s a better way. I’ll reveal the secret to making him feel like a winner in your relationship and why that’s the key to inspiring commitment. Plus, I’ll share actionable tips and reflection questions to help you shift your approach this week and start attracting the love you truly deserve.  

 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

– Why men aren’t afraid of commitment—they’re afraid of committing to the wrong woman.  

– How your past relationships and cultural conditioning impact the way you approach love.  

– The common mistakes women make when trying to inspire commitment (and how to avoid them).  

– The paradigm shift that will change how you view commitment forever.  

– The kind of woman he DOES commit to.  

– How to create a dynamic where he feels ready to commit.  

Things That Make Him See You As A Woman He Wants To Commit To

 1. When You Create a Safe Emotional Space For Him

    Why: Men are more likely to commit when they feel emotionally safe and understood. If a woman listens, validates his feelings, and avoids unnecessary criticism, he feels secure opening up to her, which fosters trust and commitment.

 2. When You  Respect His Autonomy

    Why: Men value independence and the ability to make their own decisions. There’s big winning energy there!  When a woman supports his individuality rather than controlling or smothering him, he feels free within the relationship and is more willing to commit.

 3. When You Inspire Him to Be Better

    Why: A winning woman challenges him to grow and step into his masculine role without belittling him, telling him what to do or fixing him. Men are naturally drawn to women who elevate their sense of purpose and make them want to be better.

 4. When You Understand How Men Fall in Love

    Why: Men typically fall in love through action, respect, and trust built over time, not just words or emotions. When a woman allows him to pursue, lead, and give, it aligns with his natural bonding process, making commitment feel rewarding rather than pressured.

 5. When You Balance Space and Connection

    Why: Men commit when they experience a healthy balance of intimacy and space. A woman who knows how to maintain her own life while creating meaningful moments of connection signals confidence and security, which makes him want to deepen the relationship.

 6. When You Embody Secure Feminine Energy

    Why: A woman who is secure and confident doesn’t overfunction, chase, or demand. Instead, she practices patience, self worth, and standards, which naturally draws him closer and eliminates fear of commitment because he feels chosen, not controlled.

 7. When He Feels Valued, Not Needed

    Why: Men don’t fear commitment when they feel they are wanted for who they are, not just what they can provide. (money, marriage or baby breath anyone?!)  If a woman shows appreciation for his efforts and values his character, he feels fulfilled and eager to commit.

 8. When The Relationship Feels Easy and Fun

    Why: Men commit when the relationship feels enjoyable and dramafree. Not challenge free. Drama free. Big difference. (i explain the difference in the masterclass) A woman who brings positivity, humor, and lightheartedness into his life makes him associate her with happiness, making longterm commitment desirable.

 9. When He Sees You as High Value

    Why: A woman with high standards who knows her worth stands out. Men are naturally drawn to women who set boundaries, are selective, and make them feel like they’ve earned their place in her life.

 10. He Feels Trusted and Needed

    Why: Men want to feel like protectors and providers in a relationship. When a woman trusts him to fulfill this role and expresses genuine appreciation for his efforts, he feels essential to her life, making commitment feel purposeful.

 11. When You Don’t Play Games

    Why: Men commit to women who are authentic and transparent. If you communicate clearly and avoid manipulative tactics, he knows where he stands, which eliminates fear and confusion about the relationship.

 12. When You Aligns with His Future Goals

    Why: Men are futureoriented when it comes to serious relationships. If you share his values, life vision, and long term goals, commitment feels like a natural next step because it aligns with his sense of purpose and direction.

By embodying these traits and creating a dynamic of trust, respect, and attraction, a man feels inspired to commit not out of obligation, but out of genuine desire to build a lasting connection.

 REFLECTION QUESTIONS: 

1. Are you overfunctioning in your relationships? How does it show up?  

2. Do you feel like you’re giving too much while receiving too little in return?  

3. How have your past relationships or cultural beliefs shaped the way you approach love?  

4. What small steps can you take to set boundaries and let him lead this week?  

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Song: Times It By Two by Annie Tracy

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