Do you ever wonder why you’re not into the men who are genuinely into you? But you’re obsessed with the ones who barely look your way? Ima break. This.  down. 

The men who pursue you? You’re actually your truest self around them. You’re not overthinking or trying to impress. You’re in your spirit—detached from any outcome. And guess what? That’s *super attractive.* They’re drawn to your authenticity, your ease, and your honesty.  

But those men you’re *crazy* attracted to? The ones you desperately want? That’s a different story. Around them, you go into what I call ‘take mode.’ It’s like this primal, ‘Give me that!’ energy. You’re acting out of fear and craving, not confidence. From your flesh.  

And here’s the kicker: when you’re in that space, it feels *intrusive* to men. They pick up on it, even subconsciously, and it gives them the ick. That ‘I gotta have him’ energy? It pushes them away.”  

So here’s the lesson: the men who want you, are responding to the real you—calm, secure, and radiant. The men you chase? You’re leading with neediness, and it’s repelling. The key? Stay in your spirit, not your flesh, and let the right man come to you and respond to him…stop reacting to  

The men who *want you* see the real YOU—the calm, radiant, authentic woman who’s at ease in her spirit. That’s why they’re drawn to you.  

But the men you *chase*? They don’t actually know the real you. Why? Because when you’re in *take mode*—driven by that primal, “I’ve got to have him!” energy—you’re acting out of fear, not confidence. That energy hides your true, magnetic self.  

And here’s the truth: if they *did* see the real you, they *would* like you. They’d be just as drawn to your authentic spirit as the men who pursue you. But when you lead with insecurity, it pushes them away before they even get the chance.  

💡 *Here’s the good news:* You can shift this. 

You can step into your spirit and let all men see the *real* you—the woman who’s confident, secure, and effortlessly magnetic. And when you do? You’ll attract the right man who adores you for who you truly are.  

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