Are you showing him how much you’re into him because you’re “so tired of playing games?”

That’s actually why he’s pulling away.

Allow me to break it down. 

You like him, so you:  

– Initiate contact.  

– Always say “yes” to plans.  

– Compliment him often.  

– Make it clear how amazing he is.  

You’re trying to make it easy for him to know where you stand.  Makes sense.

You think: 

– Men like it when women show interest.  

– He’ll appreciate how easy you make it.  

– If he knows you’re all in, he’ll want you more.  

But the truth is…  

Men fall in love through giving their effort. When you tell him or show him you like him, you remove the challenge, it:

– Feels too easy.

– Makes him question your value.

– Leaves him feeling inadequate, lazy, or unmotivated.

What actually happens.

Instead of drawing him closer, your effort backfires:

– He pulls away.

– He loses interest.

– He stops pursuing.

Why? Because “easy” makes him feel like a failure.

I know. Just keep reading.

Notice that what you’re doing is you’re trying to show up the way YOU like a man to show up for you.

Telling you he wants you. Showing you he’s interested.

Making your life easier.

But men are totally different than you and they don’t like easy, blatant and obvious.

Men fall in love completely different than women.

He wants to be in environments that make him think, challenge him, require hard work that make him feel powerful and successful.

Things that make him feel like he’s scoring points. Winning.

He does NOT want to be in spaces or around people who bring out the lazy, restless or unmotivated parts of him.

He thrives and becomes the best version of himself where he’s expected to dig deep, feel healthy stress and be resourceful. He wants to earn his keep. Not be mothered. This makes him feel like a little boy and not the man he is.

The solution? Stop chasing him and start chasing your dreams.

– Let him pursue you.

– Set high standards.

– Allow him to work for your time and attention.

Men value what they earn. He devalues what’s easy to get. No he won’t get frustrated. Well, yes. But in the best way. 

When you step back and let him lead:

– He feels powerful and successful.

– He’s more attracted to you.

– He becomes invested and committed.

You become a source of his success versus the reason he’s failing. Let him show you he’s worthy of you. It’s a win-win. 

Here’s something *most women* don’t realize:  

Men are wired to *chase, conquer,* and *earn.* It’s not just about relationships – it’s in their DNA.  

Think about it:  

– Why do men love sports? 🏀 The thrill of competition. The satisfaction of victory.  

– Why are war movies their go-to? 🎥 The challenge of overcoming impossible odds.  

– Why do they spend hours on video games? 🎮 To fight battles, solve puzzles, and level up.  

It’s all about *effort and reward.*  

No, they’re not lazy, selfish, or little boys who won’t grow up. Men thrive on challenge and effort – that’s what makes them step up and *show up* as the masculine, committed partners you deserve.

When you make things too easy for him, he misses out on the *thrill* that makes him feel alive, powerful, and capable. Instead of feeling like a winner, he feels… inadequate. Like something’s missing.  

But let me be clear: This isn’t about *playing hard to get.* It’s about understanding what men need to feel good about themselves in a relationship.  

Men need *wins.* They need to feel like they’ve earned your time, attention, and heart.   

When you let him chase you, pursue you, *work* for you:  

– He feels successful.  

– He values *you* more.  

– He becomes invested and connected in ways he wouldn’t if everything was handed to him.  

That’s the magic of letting him pursue you and having high standards. He NEEDS them to feel like the strong man he is.  

So stop chasing. Let him lead. Let him show you he’s the kind of man who can win your heart. 💖  

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