Have you ever found yourself thinking that if you just show him *more* of your love, or go that extra mile to prove you’re the “right” woman for him, he’ll finally want you the way you want him?
This pattern of “over-functioning” and people-pleasing isn’t actually about him—it’s a sign of insecure attachment. When you want a man so deeply, to the point that you bend yourself to fit into what you *think* he needs, it often comes from a deep fear of not being chosen or not feeling “enough” as you are.
Here’s the truth: you can’t get him to want you more simply by wanting him more.
Real connection doesn’t grow from proving yourself or over-giving. Instead, it grows from a foundation of secure attachment, where you’re not acting out of fear of losing him, but rather from a place of inner security. Healing to create secure attachment frees you from the need to over-function or people-please because you no longer feel the pull to prove yourself worthy. When you heal, you naturally attract a man who is just as willing and excited to invest in *you*—without you having to twist yourself to “earn” it.
As you buildi secure attachment, you’ll see how much simpler and more fulfilling it feels to be in a connection where you’re truly seen and loved for who you are. It’s a journey worth every step, because it leads you to a love that is secure, fulfilling, and truly mutual.
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