He’s not gonna like you more because you earn 6-figures, have a Masters or own your own home.

Ladies, secure masculine men that love you and want to take care of you, don’t care what you bring to the table.

Healthy men understand their role as a partner and that’s as a protector and provider. He wants to love you, keep you safe and make you happier. But you won’t be able to enjoy that if you don’t understand your role as the feminine receiver.  Sure, your job is great. But he does NOT use that as a reason to choose you as a mate.

Men fall in love with the woman that makes him feel useful, needed & respected.

And a man feels at his most purposeful when he works hard, gives to you and is truly appreciated for all he does. But how can he give when you’re busy providing everything? He can’t.

A secure feminine woman easily receives and trusts her partner to provide.

But that will feel impossible if you’ve always felt like you need to work hard and give a lot in order to “earn your keep” or be worthy of love and attention. This behavior usually stems from having caregivers that you couldn’t trust to provide love, if parents were abusive, absent or you didn’t feel safe or secure in their ability to be consistent or stable.

When you lead with what you do and all you have, he will see you as a competitor and not as a companion.

A man works hard every single day. He looks at the world as a daily war he has to fight in. He DOES NOT want to be with a woman who doesn’t value all he does or someone who he feels he has to fight at home for the role of provider. He wants a team player that supports him and celebrates his day in the battlefield. 

Trusting yourself fully and feeling loved  in your body will allow you to stop believing that you have to work hard to be worthy of love from a man.

You will finally stop leading with your accomplishments, titles, material possessions, income, beauty, body and sex  in order to be loved and cared for by a great man. You’ll stop sabotaging your love success.

The dynamics you learned by watching your parents in a relationship together, as well as the way you felt as a daughter in terms of trusting your parents to love you and provide for you will heavily influence how you show up in a romantic relationship. 

The dynamics you learned by watching your parents in a relationship together, as well as the way you felt as a daughter in terms of trusting your parents to love you and provide for you will heavily influence how you show up in a romantic relationship.⁣

And when you find a man that promises you the potential of love and security, the little girl in you attaches to him and will do anything to get him to choose you. ⁣

You’ll work hard to win him over by giving him your time, affection, body, money, and the list goes on and on. ⁣

It’s this very “convincing” energy that feels right to you and but off for him. ⁣

A man knows that he’s the one that should win your heart and not the other way around. ⁣

So when you ride in with your degrees and trying to sell him on your life, a secure masculine man quickly gets turned off and uninterested. ⁣

Your intention is so positive but this belief that you have to give in order to be worthy is driven by fear and it’s deeply programmed in your subconscious.  ⁣

This has been your life motto and working hard is what you’re a pro at. ⁣

It also worked really well at helping you survive tough experiences in the past and provide a good life so far. So you held on to this giving and working hard plan. ⁣

If it ain’t broke, why fix it?

Well because this dynamic doesn’t work in romantic relationships. ⁣

You don’t have to lead and over give with a strong, secure man. He wants to do that for you. ⁣

⁣But if you don’t trust him to provide and live for you, you’ll keep on with this strategy and it will only push away the good men and attract all the lazy unhealthy guys that love to take take take. ⁣

When you finally feel loved and secure simply because you’re you, you will easily be able to attract an amazing man that wants to love you and take care of you even more. ⁣

Are you ready to finally experience that true self love, happiness and security you know you need in order to attract a great man and have a relationship that feels good AND lasts?

⁣In my coaching program Segura (which means secure in Spanish) I help single, smart and strong women like you create the secure attachment you need to feel truly confident, comfortable in your own skin and deeply know you’re enough so you can naturally attract a secure masculine man and finally have a relationship that feels good AND lasts. 

STOP dating like the world & date according to The Word. There isn’t a shortage of Godly men out there. You’ve just been attracting and picking the wrong ones because you’ve been using a worldly strategy. It’s time you experienced the love God wants for you. Segura is the program where I share how I believe you can  date, connect with and choose to the right man for you.  Click here to download the program now. 

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