Are you looking for a husband or are you stepping into your role as a wife? In today’s episode, we dive into the powerful shift that happens when you stop focusing on finding a man and start becoming the kind of woman who creates the marriage of her dreams. I share each of these drastically different approaches that create certain attitudes that affect how men perceive you, and why embodying your inner wife is the key to attracting the right man effortlessly.  

If you’ve been feeling stuck in your love life or wondering why your efforts to “find him” aren’t working, this episode will offer you a fresh perspective and actionable steps to shift your energy and mindset.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:  

• The difference between “take energy” and “love energy” and how they impact your dating life.  
• Why focusing on being a wife helps you feel more confident, feminine, and empowered.  
• How this mindset shift makes you more magnetic to a secure, masculine man who’s ready for marriage.  
• Practical tips to begin embodying your “wife energy” today.  

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

• “Stop Selling Yourself & Instead, Help Him Buy” – Blooming Podcast episode
• The Queen’s Code by Allison Armstrong 
• Marriage-Focused Goals – The Free Workshop with Anabell Ingleton

 Key Takeaways:  

– It’s not about chasing a man: When you’re focused on finding a husband, you unintentionally project neediness and pressure, which repels the very type of man you want.  

– Love energy is magnetic: Shifting your focus to embodying the traits of a wife places you in a calm, confident, and loving energy that draws the right man to you naturally.  

– Becoming the woman who has the relationship you want: This mindset shift transforms not only your dating experience but also how you feel about yourself and your value in relationships.  

REFLECTION QUESTIONS: 

1. Are you focused on what you want in a husband, or who you want to be as a wife?  

   – What qualities would you need to embody to create the marriage of your dreams?  

2. How does your current energy feel in your dating life?  

   – Are you operating from “take energy” (chasing, needing, convincing) or “love energy” (confidence, abundance, giving)?  

3. What does “wife energy” mean to you?  

   – How would stepping into this energy change how you view yourself and how men perceive you?  

4. What beliefs about relationships or marriage might be keeping you stuck in ‘searching mode’?  

– How can you reframe those beliefs to focus on becoming rather than finding?  

5. If you were already married to your dream partner, how would you show up in your daily life?  

   – How can you start living in alignment with that version of yourself today?  

6. What traits or habits could you cultivate that would make you feel more confident and secure as a partner?  

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

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